“I’ve a feeling I’ll be made redundant soon and there’s little I’ll be able to do about that. I’m in my mid – forties, been at the same job since I was 25, and everybody just takes me for granted. My children are away at university and I sense that my husband would prefer some new excitement, if you know what I mean. How do I reinvent myself?”
Are you tired from wearing out your roles – dependable worker, loyal wife, caring mother? Is your impasse coming from inside — feeling bored and unchallenged, or are you distressed from how others (especially those closest to you) perceive you? And you’d prefer to be perceived how exactly? I take it you want a more invigorated role at work, and to jump back into the swing of things where romance is concerned. Is this what you want, or are you feeling pressured to perform?
Reinvention of the Self is good. Isn’t it always the right thing to stay relevant and keep up with the times? The focus is very much on redefining your “brand values” and your “emotional fingerprint” — working out who you are in relation to the rest of the world.
Once your brand is established then it becomes easier to see what action you might take, whether it’s rediscovering an old passion, or moving to the other side of the world or embarking on a new career. A makeover or changing your appearance might be part of that, but it should be a reflection of inner transformation, not because of pressure from your spouse!