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My 26 year – old niece and her mother are estranged. It appears that the girl does not approve of her mother’s boyfriends. Her mother and father were divorced 4 years ago and now that the mother is dating again, the two are frequently at loggerheads. The young lady is disapproving of her mother and questions all her behavior. How do we remedy this?…

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When I’m stressed I get angry. Sometimes I feel I am angry all the time because I feel I have to defend my opinions, I have to fight for my rights – to speak and be heard. I feel all knotted up inside and I just wish I could relax. I need fixing or I will suffer a breakdown. What do I do?…

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I’m 26 and I’ve difficulty communicating with my mum. She disapproves of my friends, how I spend my time; sometimes I think she wholly disapproves of me. Then there are the lectures. This is when she tells me how she wants me to behave. Is there hope for a better relationship? If so, how?…

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A group of us serve on a committee to promote business among our members. Before the election everyone swears devotion but during the service tenure many fail to contribute putting their own business first. I want to lead next year. How do I engage people so the team performs?…

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I’m exhausted. I know I’m doing too much because I’m frequently falling sick. I don’t spend enough time with my family, I’ve lost touch with my friends – my relationships are falling apart because my life is all work, work, work! Trouble is, if I slow down, or stop, my career would suffer. What do I do?…

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I’m a senior manager and although I love my job and my bosses think well of me, I feel really tired when I get home, not from the work but from worrying about those under my “wing.” I’m anxious – what if they don’t perform, what if they make mistakes, what if they let me down…

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I met a divorcee 6 months ago. I’ve just proposed to her. She’s been through a difficult divorce, has 2 kids & I’m now taking care of her monthly financial expenses. She says needs more time to decide. I’m extremely patient but I can’t understand why she wants to delay. We’re both Muslim and I’m ma…

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I’m stuck in a rut. I’m buried in routine. Everyday is the same and I struggle just to wake up in the morning. As soon as I get to work, I feel tired by the monotony I can expect from the day. My life goes on like that. What can I do to get out of this? I have a decent job. Just that I feel li…

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I have trouble getting along with my boss. He expects me to agree with him all the time. If I question my task, or suggest ways I think could work better, he takes it as a personal affront and gives me the cold shoulder. Things can get tense. So I’ve become a weak, submissive follower. But I’m mi…

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How do I get my partner of 4 years to stop looking at things so negatively? He thinks of himself as a victim of other people’s maneuvering and believes everyone is out to do him in. So he lashes out. He often displays violent, angry, attacking behavior although I know in his heart he wants very much to get along with pe…

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I’ve been involved with a married man for 2 years. 3 months ago I ended the affair. He’s my boss. He wants us to remain friends but I can’t. Suffering in silence, I’ve given the excuse to my colleagues that I’m having family problems. My request for a transfer failed…

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My husband was totally romantic – he used to be the perfect gentleman – brought me flowers, took me on weekend getaways, we’d stroll from café to café, hold hands, you know… But now it’s like we’re roommates who barely notice each other. Our lives are routine with no surprises. I miss my hu…

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I’ll be sitting for my exams soon. Actually I’m doing quite well. But I always consider myself worse off when I compare myself to my friends who always get straight A’s. I have to work really hard to do well and I envy people who excel with so little effort. I’m so tortured by this… why is life so unfair?…

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I’m 45 and in love with this guy who’s 25. Problem is I’m married and so is he. I’ve fought hard against my feelings but I can’t stop wanting him. I have a good job, beautiful home, faithful husband… should I throw caution to the wind and tell this man I want to be with him?…

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I caught my husband with her. I followed him after work and there they were… having a drink together. I had suspected from the email and phone calls, but he denied any affair. I confronted him and still he insists it’s nothing – claims they are good friends. Am I over-reacting?…

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My best friend and I were discussing how best to attend a workshop in Singapore. The fee was quite high and we’d have to ride the night bus to get there on time. So we decided to pass up the opportunity. Then someone told me they saw my friend at the program and asked why I wasn’t there….

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My husband never helps out around the house. Why is he so lazy and stubborn? He can rebuild his car engine in the dark but doesn’t know how to work the vacuum cleaner! Some days I get so angry I feel I’m a husband-hater….

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Work is the same day in day out and I’m losing my focus. I’m drifting, I don’t know what I’m doing anymore… just that I feel tired and listless and helpless. How do I climb out of this rut? What I see others achieve in a day, it seems I can’t do in a week….

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Something about my job is not right but I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong. I feel discomfort, inadequacy, even frustration sometimes. At first I thought it was because I was new at it but that’s not right either. I know my work well and even enjoy it… on the days when I’m not thinking about my uneasiness….

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