Take a leap of Faith
My letter to Fear:
I want you to know it’s over between us. We had a crazy ride last year but I’ve found someone new. I’m getting back together with Faith. We have big plans for 2014 and I can’t let you hold me back any longer.
Someone asked me, “What drives you?” My reply: My values, my beliefs, my principles, my commitments, my meanings, my dreams, my highest intentions – my love for life drives me.
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. However we need to learn how to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others.
The rule is: You can only ever give away what you have. How to have love, be in love, be love, when all our energy is spent on fear? True love is impossible when you put on an image of perfection, of strength, of being so special that it takes you out of everyday life and places you above and beyond others!
Love is in accepting, in sharing.
Love is in self – expression, in vulnerability; love is in getting naked and being seen for who we truly are – warts, wounds, and all. You’d be kidding yourself if you think you can make it on your own. I see many put on a tough exterior as if to say, “I’ve got it covered. I’m fine!” I see many women suffering to be the women their husbands insist they become. Of course, they’ll never do enough or be enough to please him.
Creativity is love. To love is to be free.
There is nothing more vulnerable than creativity, for what is art, if not love? Without vulnerability you cannot create, because you’d be too scared of what others might say. To armour up or shut down is too suffocating for love, for the process of creation.
Most of us understand self-doubt, anxiety, and uncertainty. So we protect ourselves in order to be safe, to survive. We put on our masks, our bullet – proof vests, and defend with our shields. This makes us feel heavy, and burdened, suspicious and cynical. This prevents us from being open and playful, from being the carefree, fun, loving beings that we actually are. In this world filled with people experiencing  Shame – I’m not good enough  Scarcity – There’s not enough for everyone  Comparison – What will people think?  Guilt – What have I done wrong?  Fear – What if I fail?
Let’s say the Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
With that let’s rise up.
Give up the role of the slave and take on the role of the Emperor. Why not break free from the cages of our limitations? Why not step outside and dance? Who cares if you’re not doing it right? Who cares if you’re making mistakes?
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, and changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something! Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, do it. That’s the way to build courage and confidence.
So there! Make glorious, amazing mistakes! Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or that it isn’t perfect, whatever it is – art, work, family, or life. Just do it. Go out there and live your life.
My challenge to you:
Will you really have a “new” year or will you just have a “next” year? What will drive you in 2014? You know the saying: If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.
- List 5 things you will let go of for a new, improved you.
- List 5 health – sustaining habits you will create.
Love is my wish for you this NEW year! Author Paul Coelho writes, “When we love we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”