Wherever you go, there you are!
“I’ve been thinking about leaving this relationship because I’ve not been happy. As I think about leaving, I realize that when I go, I’ll take myself with me – and if I leave because I’m unhappy, I’d be taking that unhappy person with me.” My client slouched as she spoke.
I said, “Cheer up! You ought to be happy about knowing where you are in this process. Now what do you need so we can go forward?”
“The reason I want to leave is because I want to feel good. I wonder if it’s possible to feel good without leaving. I wonder if there’s anything about our relationship that I could focus on that does feel good.”
It’s great that you can examine your situation like that. Same thing for people who get knotted up at their workplace; they resign believing that “somewhere, out there” the perfect job awaits them.
The reality is, when you leave one situation because of unwanted things that are present, you will find the essence of the same unwanted things in your next environment as well, because wherever you go, there you are!
By this story, I’m working to show you that sometimes it’s not really the persons, or outside events that cause us pain, but our relationship to – the persons, or events. How we think and feel about them makes all the difference. I’d even go so far as to suggest that we examine our relationship with ourselves – our alignment between our “outer physical self” and our “inner vibrational, or spiritual self,” before we go off blaming or judging others.
Sometimes I eat too much. You know the cliché; when upset, eat ice – cream? And soon ice – cream means: I’ll feel better.
Finish everything on your plate, my mother used to say. Children are starving in Africa. Over time, finishing all the left – overs meant I was being a good girl.
Result: Overweight adult.
Get the picture? Our thoughts create our experiences… whatever way you think and feel – you are attracting more of the essence of that. The thoughts you choose determine what you experience and to what degree you experience it.
That’s why they say the rich get richer and the poor get children. Unless we learn to tell a different story, we’ll always get the same result. You cannot find a happy ending to an unhappy journey unless you change what you believe.
Trying to defend or justify your opinion only causes you to stay in your resistant state longer. And the reason so many people resist unnecessarily is because it is more important for them to be “right” rather than feel good.
Napoleon Hill wrote Think and Grow Rich. Abundance – not only must we believe we can have it; we must allow it in, and that includes not judging or envying rich people.
You cannot feel poor, and vibrate poor, and thrive. Abundance cannot find you unless you offer a vibration of abundance. You have to begin to tell the story of your life, as you now want it to be, and discontinue the tales of how it has been, or of how it is. When you are willing to offer the vibration before the manifestation, all things are possible.
The Law of Attraction
Lately many have expressed sadness over the tragedy of MH370. What does our sadness mean? Are we feeling pain because the persons involved are in pain? Look a little closer and you’ll see that the sadness is very personal.
Usually we can tell what something means to us by our feelings towards it. Usually we can measure our values by our emotions.
By the avalanche of emotions… anguish, grief, defiance, and uncontrollable rage, you could say that some people felt their values were violated. Perhaps caused not so much by the incident itself, but from the meanings they made, from their perception of how things could have been managed. Given culture and background, certain behavior can be understood.
We know by now, what we focus on expands. So whenever you feel a negative emotion, just stop whatever it is you’re doing or thinking and ask, “What is it that I want?” Make lists of things that are going right. Focus on the wellness, not on the lack of it.
The Law of Attraction responds to our thought, not our current reality. If we want our fortunes to shift, we’ve got to start telling a different story. It’s really that simple.